My bonus tip to help you live big NOW!
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Last week I shared 5 steps you can take to start making small steady changes that will help you live your biggest, most satisfying life.
If you missed it, or want to review the steps again, you can read it here.
The steps were designed to make it easy to bring a small and meaningful change in your life.
The objective is for you to see notable change quickly, so you can build momentum, and be able to make more positive shifts to the old habits that have been robbing you of time and space for what matters most to you.
Here’s a short recap of the 5 steps:
1. First identify one small shift you want to make.
2. Choose innovative ways to keep yourself focused.
3. Make a plan for the action you will take.
4. Track your progress.
5. Keep going — even if you stall, keep going and then build on your progress!
My mission is to help accomplished women everywhere all live their biggest, best lives!
Is the 5-step process is helping you?
Are you already noticing positive changes?
Whether you have started using the steps, or now want to begin to implement this gentle path to living a bigger, more satisfying life, I am excited to share one more idea today.
It can help you make the progress you desire with even more ease.
Watch your words!
This suggestion is subtle but powerful.
The language you use in your self-talk has a big impact on your thinking, and thus your actions.
I wrote about the power of self-talk to make your life easier in a post last year, that you can check out here.
And here’s another post about the power of positivity.
To put this big idea to work, take note of times you use encouraging, supportive ways of speaking to yourself, and be aware of times you let criticism or negativity fill your thoughts.
When your language is positive and encouraging, your energy flows in great ways, and the outcomes of your efforts — no matter what you are focused on doing — will be noticeably better.
You always have the opportunity to turn negativity into positive thoughts and energy, and it is easier to do that than most people think.
Two examples of positive language to adopt
1. Eliminate the “shoulds”
Here is a common way that we make things hard for ourselves, that with a little attention, can be shifted to make things significantly easier and more pleasant.
If you find yourself thinking about what you should do, pause and shift to phrasing it as what you want to do, or what you get to do.
Can you see what happens when you swap in a few new words for “should”?
Instead of berating yourself or trying to force yourself to do something, you choose that thing!
When you change the words, your energy will come from a place of desire and/or opportunity. And what happens next will be remarkably better than starting with a should!
2. Add one new word
If you feel your progress is slower than you’d like — in making a small change of habits, or reaching a milestone, or completing a challenging task — instead of beating yourself up you can add the word “yet” to your thought.
For instance, if you are focused on speaking up more boldly, a new statement can look like this:
“I have not had the courage to bring up that touchy subject with my colleague yet.”
Or, if you are trying to get more rest to feel your best, a new statement can look like this:
“I have not adjusted my bedtime yet, but I will test a new change to my routine tonight.”
Can you feel the energetic boost of simply adding “yet” to those sentences?
Awareness is powerful
When you slow down enough to bring awareness to the language you use in your self-talk, as well as when speaking with others, great things can happen with more ease and speed than you may be able to imagine now.
The more that you bring small, positive changes into your life, the more you will show up in new, big ways. I predict that you will love that expansive bigger version of you!
Email me and let me know how these suggestions work for you. And if you have questions I’ll be happy to hear them and get back to you.
This is your time to live big!
