Something worth celebrating that you may be skipping
/We just ended a weekend when we celebrated Father’s Day and Juneteenth.
While these are two distinct focal points of celebration, I think and talk a lot about the importance of celebration in our lives.
Why?
When we celebrate we take the time to pay attention.
We focus on people, events or things that are positive.
And as we honor or venerate the person, event, or other focal point of the celebration, we lift our own spirits.
This creates positive energy, and when filled with positive energy we are able to generate more of it.
Celebration is a multifaceted gift we can give to both others and ourselves!
Let’s explore some specific kinds of celebration
Father’s Day
Honoring a parent is sacred. While this day can bring on a range of emotions, the essence of the holiday is beautiful. For many it is a day of joy, as they bestow love on fathers, grandfathers, grown children who are now fathers, fathers now gone, and father-figures. When we bring our focus to them, we are often able to see them with new and clearer perspective.
Juneteenth
This holiday provides us with a markedly different experience of celebration. We commemorate the true story of freedom from enslavement, about which, sadly, many people have been unaware until recently. While it is special to celebrate this meaningful event, the sacred celebration also opens our hearts. It inspires us to learn more, and to work together for true freedom.
Life events — birthdays, anniversaries, graduations
These celebrations pop up throughout the year and sprinkle delight into our lives. Marking the passage of time and major life milestones is often moving. We sit back, reflect, gain perspective, and have special opportunities to have fun with people we love. While there can be bittersweet moments, these celebrations are often full of happiness — and who does not want more happiness in their lives?
Personal triumphs (even the small ones!)
This is the category that many of us fail to fully embrace. One of my missions is to teach people the importance of celebrating ourselves!
When you give yourself a “Yay Me” for something small (like reaching out to someone new or sticking with a positive habit), to something big (like getting a promotion), you show yourself love. These are expressions of self-love.
(Here’s a list of articles related to self-love that I have written. This one specifically talks about “Yay Me’s”.)
And when you practice self-love you give yourself a small hit of dopamine — a neurotransmitter that boosts the “reward center” in your brain. This chemical reaction is surprisingly potent and makes you feel wonderful.
So why don’t we give ourselves “Yay Me’s” more often?
Most of us minimize our accomplishments. We fail to acknowledge and celebrate ourselves, often looking for external validation. And even when others do praise us, many of us find it hard to receive the praise.
Let’s change that starting today!
Take the celebration challenge!
I have cultivated a “Yay Me“ practice, and I encourage my clients to build them. I invite you to join us.
Last week I was able to give myself a few important “Yay Me’s”.
I spoke live at a wonderful conference and I enrolled brilliant clients. Those are can’t miss events, and hard to minimize.
I am especially proud that I also celebrated myself for things I would have let slip by unacknowledged before I was so aware of their importance.
For instance, I skipped a gathering I was looking forward to attending to give myself extra rest after a few days of tiring travel and early starts. My body was so grateful I made that choice, and the “Yay Me” I gave myself was the icing on the cake.
How many “Yay Me’s” can you give yourself today?
Can you give yourself at least one “Yay Me” each day for the next week? The next month?
Maybe you’ll start keeping a “Yay Me” journal, or create a record on your phone to track them!
Please share your progress, and your specific “Yay Me’s” if you wish. I’d also love to know how it feels to declare them.
And if you want to share your vision for life filled with more “Yay Me’s” and your questions about how to create it, email me and we can make a date to talk.
Until next week, stay safe and well, and create your life with joy.